My husband is bisexual

I first off have to say you're such a supportive wife. I do hope he is able to have friends at the clubs and stay true. How would he feel if you two went together? Good Luck

Thanks for your response. I hope someday I'm comfortable enough to go with him. At this point (just a week in) I'm not ready. I am okay with the 'idea' of his bisexuality, but am not ready for the reality of it; not ready to see him in that element as a member of that society.

Right now, your husband and I are go through the almost the same thing... I have been married for over 22 year and have 3 children. The difference is my husband does not know, how a feel about other woman. I also was dealing with severe depression and was suicidal at times. Everyone is different but, how I finely had my Ah-ha moment was when, I was able to come to terms that I have a crush on a woman I work with. (I don't know if she feels the same way) I felt like I found a missing part of me, I felt whole again. I just don't know if I could go to a gay clubs, just to feel a part of it. It would be too tempting for me, that is why I am trying to get some support on this website. I wish the best for both of you, and I think it great that you are being so understanding, I too think you should go with him to this club, even just once to see what it is like.

My Husband told me about his sexuality a couple of years ago. I think I always knew, but chose to ignore. He swore that he'd never do anything about it though.
Enter in 2 yrs later, a 2nd child, us becoming distant. He's not the only person at fault, I think for me I was numb. Had my own issues with sex. I was abused as a child and perhaps that is why I was attracted to him. I accidently, saw his email account and there was a name that was there and in his history. I was intrigued, I searched. Discovered the man was gay, and lived just up the street from us. He swears that he never contacted the person, that he doesn't want that lifestyle. However, had also been watching gay porn. I told him we had to go to counselling if this was to work. That was at christmas. I finally called a consellor yesterday, cause again by accident I discovered he has now joined a website for gay men, bisexual?, also has a new email just for that account. Posted pictures of himself nude. I want to cry, I want to scream. My children????Our life/ but then again what life. He said on his post he was new to this and wants to see more. Do I confront him, or secerately wait to see what he does? If I do that though can I handle the stress. Help!@@!

I can tell you that I'm bisexual & I never cheated on my husband. He is actually the one that cheated.

It doesn't really matter if he is bisexual. Most men in marriage are attracted (even if they won't admit it) to other women but that does not mean they have sex with them.

its true that most men will look at other women and not want sex from them, and also watch porn. And so what is the difference? Perhaps its, the fear of rejection, but what I really think it is, is that with another women it seems normal, but with the same sex it makes the other person feel undesirable. And I know that's their problem, but when children are in the picture it can mess them up,and the anger that occurs from the spouse can be destructive.I'm not sure how one gets through this. But I think it all comes down to trust. And I think once you have opened the box, it's hard to put the lid back on.

In the same boat. I confronted him with what I found and how it made me feel. So now he's hiding stuff. I honestly don't know the best way to handle it. I know he loves me but I'm not sure he loves me enough or if he "loves" me to keep from having to be bisexual. Frankly, I wish he's just kept it a secret till maybe I'd died first.

You know I have to agree, it was better to be in the dark, or even him keeping the lid on. You know I wonder by him telling me that he now feels its okay to take the next step. He keeps on telling me how much better he feels now that I really know. But what about me? I don't have feelings? I can't react?I'm supposed to be happy for him cause he feels better? WTF I want to yell and scream out to the world that my husband is gay and what does that make me stupid for not seeing the signs? Also my kids what about them? Do they wonder why mom and dad are not really talking. And if I decide I can't live this way( with always wondering what he is doing, where is he going?) and decide to leave what do I tell my kids, friends, family? I wish I was the bi one then it would be in his hands . Something the woman doesn't have to fix!!!

Singing my song. If I didn't know better I'd think my alter ego is writing your posts.